I would be remiss of my duties as a blogger if I didn't blog about the Sex and The City Motion Picture. I LOVED IT! The movie was indeed a "chick flick" that encompassed everything girly- from couture dresses, to pillow talk, to flawless make-up. But the movie also included several "life lessons" and show that women--in general, go through the same issues when it comes to men and relationships- regardless of age, color, creed or geographical location.
It was so funny watching the characters on screen and realizing how much myself and my circle of friends emulate the SATC girls. I am DEFINITELY a "Carrie" whereas Charmed is soooo much of a Charlotte it's a shame. Omigosh, I was too tickled when in Mexico, the girls were sitting on the patio enjoying the view and chitchatting--and Charlotte came out in her workout gear ready for a run. She asked if any of them wanted to join her and they all gave her the "look" and she got the picture and went alone. That is such a Charmed move! She would so do that! (Don't get any ideas Charmed! In Mexico I refuse to workout!!! lol)
I went to see the movie without the company of any of my good girlfriends, but they were not only in my heart, they were alllll over the screen. The story line was great, and the development of the characters (with the exception of Louise) was very realistic. I did not like the character J-Hud played...but I won't get into the why of it-- I just basically felt that she was insignificant and created to appease women of color. BAD JOB!
Some folks may argue that the characters in the movie didn't progress much from their start on the show some 10 yrs ago. Though we all know that evolution is nearly inevitable, how many grown ass women do you know that DRASTICALLY change? I saw subtle character changes in each one of them- especially Samantha. But let's not forget, they truly emulate REAL women, and sometimes, we REAL women digress.
I had one major problem with the plot though. I am a self-proclaimed Carrie; I find that she and I tend to parallel in many ways. However, one way we don't parallel is in the way she decided to handle the situation with Big.
Here's why. If you recall, Carrie was seemingly ok with "shacking up" with Big (another area in which we differ). I doubt highly if I would be ok with "playing house." But I digress. The nonchalant attitude in which he brought up the marriage, and her equally nonchalant response, gave me the notion that she really wasn't that pressed on being "married" to him. I received the impression that their relationship was progressing and would continue to progress with or without a marriage license. The "proposal" came out of the blue and didn't seem to carry much weight. Until of course she became enthralled in the ceremony of the wedding and didn't give the marriage much concentration.
Fast-forward to the night before the wedding when Big called her to say that he was having doubts. She handled that conversation much better than I'd imagined, cuz I would've probably gone clean the hell off- forgetting that we were ok with just living together a few months ago. But Carrie, however, calmly and eloquently re-assured him that their marriage was about the two of them and their love for and commitment to each other. She made me proud! But the next day, amidst all of the chaos, she forgot that he had been having doubts- doubts that he expressed less than 24 hrs before. She forgot about her partner and didn't think twice about connecting with him before one of the most monumental occasions in each of their lives. Her entire "Us against the world" speech that she had given him the night before, was null and void.
My heart stopped when she dropped the phone and exclaimed that he wasn't going to show up. But the scene that followed was the real clincher for me. When the two cars met on the busy streets of NYC and they both emerged from the chauffeured vehicles, I felt like I was there! It was by far the BEST scene in the movie IMO. I could not begin to imagine the embarrassment and humiliation a person would feel after experiencing that. I, too, would've probably beat his ass across the head with the bouquet of roses!!! Not only that, but my girls would have joined in on the mulling. There would've been a good azz whoopin taking place on that street! But sooner, rather than later, my emotional mind would have subsided and my practical mind would have kicked in. Following the emotional outburst and physical assault, a barrage of questions would have been thrown his way. Would I have gone back and had the ceremony after he revealed that he had made a mistake and did indeed want to go through with the wedding? NOPE. There was clearly some issues that were in dire need of a resolution. Would all have been well between the two of us? Absolutely not! I would still be upset, hurt and humiliated...and in need of some time without him. I would have taken the trip to Mexico, especially in the company of my girls...and I probably would've sulked in my own self pity for a few days. But completely ignore him is something that I would have never done. At some point, between the margaritas and love's hang-over, my practical mind would have reminded me that my emotional mind had over-powered the situation.
In my opinion Carrie lost sight of the man that Big really was and started treating him like the man she hoped he had become; but she was wrong. Underneath what seemed to be his undying devotion to her and his declarations of love for her, he proved to be the same flighty, commitment-phobe he had always been. And lest we forget that he had already experienced 2 failed marriages.
Carrie always knew (in the back of her mind) that there was a possibility that Big would flake on her- yet again. She may have hoped otherwise, but he gave her tell-tale signs that her intuition was accurate. She had allowed her hope to override her intuition. She admitted to this during her rant on the street. A woman's intuition aka "gut feeling" is a gift from God. We all have it, but most often we allow our hopes to override it. Had she paid closer attention to her "gut feeling" she would have been forced to pay a little more attention to his apprehension. He sent her a couple of warnings but she overlooked them, and therefore the end result was to her detriment.
Am I saying that Big had a right to be flighty and stand her up? Do I agree with him calling her the day of the wedding and expecting her to be able to pick up the phone amidst all of the hoopla to sooth his ego? Not actually. But I do believe that it is a woman's responsibility to nurture her man in any and every way possible. It was Carrie's duty to Big to ensure that he was comfortable with the situation and ready for the day's activities. She forgot about the most important person in her life...her man.
Whenever my special day comes, I will definitely make it a point to communicate with my H.I.M. the day of the ceremony- several times if possible. Not because I want to make sure he won't stand me up at the altar (that will be confirmed wayyyy before the planning begins), but because it is OUR special day and we should try to share in every aspect of it TOGETHER.
It's easy to point the finger at what another person has done to wrong us. It is much harder, however, to take a closer look into how we could have possibly contributed to the situations demise. Carrie quickly laid the blame entirely on Big's shoulders as well as allowed Miranda to later share in the honor, without taking a step back and evaluating how much she had contributed to the matter. Had she done so, she would have seen how she had gotten CARRIE'd away with herself. But of course, it was a just movie! Right?!
I still believe in fairy tales; complete with Prince Charming, his white horse and a big ass mansion with servants and the like. But in fairy tales, like in real life, there are obstacles to overcome and set-backs to sustain. The "Happily Ever After" never came without a struggle, so anything less would be questionable.
XoXo,
C'est Chic
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